Naughty mama, naughty papa, naughty.....
That's the new thing going around the house. Alysha going around saying naughty mama everything she gets upset with me, naughty papa, etc.
I worry sometimes whether she will resent me for all the punishment that she gets for being naughty. Sometimes I think I punish her too much and don't let her be herself. Its just that I feel she needs to realize that for every action there will be a reaction, good and bad.
Should I let her get away with scribbling in her story book (she actually got away with this one as I realized she did it solely to get my attention), or ripping up Inarah's mat on the floor, or switching off the TV when Suben is watching, or just throwing things around the house instead of the dustbin, throwing coins instead of putting it in her piggy bank, biting into her pencils, writing on the wall, hitting kakak or papa when she is upset, screaming at one of us when she is upset, ah! the list could go on and on
I know they seem very trivial (except hitting someone for which she never gets away w/o a punishment) but if I do let her get away with the rest, wont she just keep doing them again and again. On the other hand she is 3 1/2 and maybe too young to be punished for some of these things. Am I being too harsh on her?
Its so tough being a mother, being expected to do the right thing, to be firm yet loving. They don't teach any of this in any school, how would I know what to do ?
Sometimes I feel I fail so badly at motherhood.
posted by Shamira @ 4:26 PM
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5 Comments:
Aaah, may she is trying to get your attention over her lil sister. But she definitely needs to be conditioned, if necessary.
I too experience the same thing.. but now my boy is okay.. he has learnt.
Don't feel bad. Sometimes we have to do what we have to do. In my case, hubby doesn't really do much conditioning, so it's me.. the bad mummy. But if we do it right, they will still feel loved ;)
Hey,
Don't feel so bad - I am in the same shoes. And I feel lousy when someone compares my gal with other kids to say those kids don't behave like mine. I wonder where am I going wrong. But of course some kids are not as bright as yours and mine too...so thats our consolations...they will grow out of the naughtiness - I HOPE!
I'm a naughty mama too, according to my 4 year old.
Please don't think you've failed in motherhood!You only have your child's best interest at heart.You're feeling bad because your punishments may be a little too harsh.Don't you just feel like crying when your child tells you not to hit him or when he asks why you hit him???If only you could undo what you just did!
it's so hard isn't it? i have to say though, that it feels good to know that you feel this way too - it means that i'm not the only one - which means that neither of us can be as bad at it as we think we are, right?
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